My first week back at work with my eldest kidlet…her expression says it all!

It’s half-way through the week, and I am in midst of my weekly routine.  Along with my writing here and creating hand-made pieces for my Etsy store I have a science career that I am just as passionate about.

It’s now been 10 years since I had to learn the fine art of balancing being a Mum with having a career.  The time has flown by and along the way I  have picked up some tricks and tools to help make it an enjoyable ride for everyone.

So with that in mind, I thought I’d share a my top five tips for returning to work and finding balance between home and work (WARNING – some of these are a little harsh, I was tempted to change/modify/water down what I was trying to say, but decided I may dilute the message):

1. Remember…nobody is as interested in your kids as you are.  You are the Mum (or Dad) so it’s your role to believe that your kids are the coolest/funniest/most special people in the world. Put yourself in your co-workers shoes…  Replace ‘baby’ with ‘cycling’, then imagine if you would regale a non-cycling enthusiast with all the details about your bike, the rides you’ve done, how the Tour is going. Falling asleep yet?  Same applies to kids and babies. I know it’s sounds a bit harsh, but it’s true.
2. Treat each role with respect. When you are at work, work.  When you are at home or spending time with your kids, then be present.  Simple right? Try and keep a clear line between the two.  There will always be times when your worlds collide, however day-to-day show respect for both sides by focussing on where you are.
3. Take the time when you are on maternity leave, no matter what the duration, to think about what you want when you return. Do you want to keep your skills current? Progress your career?  Interact and socialise with adults? Earn money for your family/lifestyle/future?  Whatever it is, own it.  Being a little fuzzy about why you are back at work can make the whole situation a lot tougher.  Be honest with yourself.
4. Don’t apologise for returning to work, or staying at home.  Be proud of your decision either way.  Women, men, society in general can be tough on women and men and the choices they make in having kids and raising them.  There will be enough critical analysis of your actions without adding to it yourself.
5. Find a way to carve out time to be you.  Whether it’s exercise, reading, getting creative, meditation, whatever takes your fancy! Find a way to be kind to yourself and do it daily. Don’t feel guilty, know that it’s critical to take the time to make sure you have the energy to put your heart into all parts of your life.

I hope there is a little chestnut in here to inspire you to be proud and own your choices and also appreciate and respect your friends choices.

Enjoy xx