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Homework o’clock.

Understanding, encouraging, cajoling, threatening, pleading, and any other tool I have in my arsenal in an attempt to ensure the kids are receiving a good education and we are not going completely loony trying to get EVERYTHING done.

One of the major quandaries I seem to be coming up against lately is finding the balance between stepping in and stepping back.

Helping your kids is one thing, becoming a helicopter parent is a whole other can of worms!

Where do you draw the line?

Take maths.

The kids now have Mathletics (an online learning portal with a bunch of tests and ‘live challenges’), worksheets and timetables to learn by rote (yep, those are still old school). Then there are the incidental maths type activities, cooking (weighing and measuring, counting, sorting…

The perfectionist in me wants each of the kids to get every  question right, to have every worksheet completed, neatly and on time.  Perfectly and correctly.

No mistakes.

I find I have to draw a line though because it can be a slippery slope to becoming THAT parent who possibly, no definitely, completed the assignment and then got disappointed when they ‘only received a B’.

I think kids need to learn what frustration, failure and pressure to get things done feels like, and they need to know it’s ok and perfectly normal. We all make mistakes sometimes, become angry when things don’t go our way and frustrated when we are struggling to master a new skill. It’s ok to admit that and then work through it. That’s what can ultimately help us to become independent and build our confidence, and find our way.

There was a great article in The Age about how we can build resilience in our kids, and how it can be a great life lesson and skill to take into adulthood.

What do you think? Do you allow your kids to fail or feel disappointed?  Or do you think there is plenty of time to learn those hard lessons?

Enjoy xx

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